We has a great conversation last night about gossip (at Mount Madonna School – amazing place). On our school climate survey the lowest scoring question was, “People here don’t gossip much.”
One of the parents pointed out that gossip isn’t necessarily done with harmful intent — people could say they “gossip” because they are concerned and sharing important information. Personally I wouldn’t call that gossip. Princeton WordNet says:
n 1: light informal conversation for social occasions
2: a report (often malicious) about the behavior of other people; “the divorce caused much gossip”
3: a person given to gossiping and divulging personal information about others
So there is a dimension that’s just “chit-chat,” but there’s that “often malicious” in there. What do you think? Is there something inherently malicious or undermining in gossip?
Anyway, one of my favorite questions: How do we use the tendency to gossip in a positive way?
What’s so good about this is that it acknowledges people are as they are — and we still have choice… and we still have the opportunity to influence others. It’s a very strengths-oriented approach: What do people do well, and how can that come into service of a larger purpose?
The 2nd best remedy for feeling yucky.
- 2 cups chicken broth
- 1 avocado cut into cubes
- 1/4 c salsa, chunky
- 2 tortillas, crisp over flame (on gas stove) or in pan, tear into pieces
- 1/2 lime.
Put all the stuff into 2 bowls, eat with your true love who also has a bit of a cold and comisserate.
Just came home from some errands, feeling a little sorry for myself (too much work, not enough $), and saw our roses are blooming.
YAY. So brave w all this rain.
Also saw there is a gopher running amok. Gotta kill it.
Life in the garden is much simpler than “real” life.
Well I just finished Julie/Julie by Julia Powell and I loved it (enough to write a review which I don’t really do), and now I’m inspired about this whole blogging thing. (By the way, her blog is cool: What Could Happen?)
Really the first few posts I did we just ads for what I was working on, which is cool if anyone cares, but I think maybe I’ll try actually blogging.
So I can’t believe it’s actually noon already. The day goes by in no time, it’s scary. I still haven’t eaten breakfast – again! I wish that would help my diet. Shit. But I did nordic track this morning, so 1 step ahead, 1 back… maybe that’s why this morning sitting down to work seemed kind of overwhelming.
I love working at home, but sometimes it would be great to have a bunch of people just to bs with and not really work… I think it’s an under-appreciated part of “work” — kind of a recovery time. Because people are herd animals, maybe we need to herd around sometimes? Maybe that’s why gossip is so insidious.
Today I’m going to my kids’ school to present the data on the school climate — gossip is a problem. That’s been true in just about every school I’ve measured, but we don’t have that question on our corporate survey. Maybe I’ll just stick it on there to see what happens.
For the 6th year in a row, the July EQ Trainer Certification boasts a remarkable group of change agents. It’s reassuring to know that, amidst the strife and consumption, there is a large group of people deeply committed to bringing heart and wisdom into the world.
For the first time since 9-11, we have a highly international group — EQ allies from India, Nigeria, Singapore, Dubai, and the US. It’s been a sadness to me that our global allies have stayed away for these years (and no surprise – nor blame to them), so I’m especially glad to see people traveling here again.
What happens when you take 26 people committed to learning about emotional intelligence and bring them through a series of powerful learning tools? There’s something nearly magical in the intensity of awareness, connection, optimism, and purpose. I feel priviledged to be a part of it, and humbled to be helping to lead it.
The last few days have been a whirlwind of curriculum. Still part of the Emotional Intelligence Toolkit, been working on new modules for the EQ Leadership program and the Selling with EQ program. Next week we’re focusing on the EQ Change Management program. Gasping for air!
We’ve had over 400 people take the new English version of the SEI (Six Seconds Emotional Intelligence Test) so we’ll be revising the norms and we’ll begin selling the English version in a few weeks (the test was develop in Italy, in Italian, so now we’re adapting it).
I’m a little overwhelmed by the zillion projects on my desk, but glad too. It’s an emotional intelligence training camp here! Got to keep my own emotions in synch so I can do the work I’ve set out.
I’m tired! Traveling sucks something from me. But is was a great – brief – trip to Calgary.
The Youth Solvent Addiction Centers (YSAC) are doing incredible work with 1st Canadian teens. This is an incredibly resilient, caring group of people with real courage and depth. They face an impossible challenge and do it anyway.
The YSAC treatment programs are based on the medicine wheel. Four quadrants:
Of course emotional intelligence comes into that fourth one. And it pervades the way they operate. For example one of the executive directors was talking about knowing what was true with kids because we can FEEL what’s true. This attention to “deeper knowing” is probably a turn-off for some people, but it rings so true for me – even with my rather scientific world-view.
Today I’m working on our new EQ Leadership curriculum.
I’ve also been working on revising the materials around our Organizational Climate Index. Currently working on a new version of the report. Much fun!
I left sunny springtime in California and arrived in winter in Calgary. I’m glad to be here though, I am speaking at a conference on youth solvent addiction. This is a group of people who have incredible resilience and a true commitment to their noble goals. And a field where emotional intelligence could be really valuable!
I just posted several new courses on http://www.6seconds.org/new/
I also updated the 2005 EQ training calendar: http://www.6seconds.org/training
I’m tired. This is my 3rd travel week in a row, and all this course putting online stuff put me over the edge. Time for bed!
I’ve been hearing so much about Blogger, I decided I had to give it a try. Here I am. How exciting is this? (actually not that exciting yet).
Today I am in Pella, IA. I’m doing the EQ Leader training for Pella Corporation. Looking forward to a great day!